I am super excited to bring you this post today while I'm on temporary leave from the blogosphere. Hands down the craftiest, busiest blogger going through a deployment I know is Janey. Her posts always touch on something creative, serious, hilarious and 100% truthful about the Army. Residing in Hawaii (aren't we all jealous??) and nearing the finish line of her own hubby's deployment she managed to squeeze some time in to write a very truthful post about how to survive deployments.. so grab your wine (not kidding my glass is right in front of me..) and don't forget to hop on over to Janey's blog A Few of My Favorite Things...
I'm Janey from A Few of My Favorite Things, a newlywed Army spouse surviving my husband's first deployment. In the military spouse world there seem to be a few queries that we all get, the most common being a version of the question, “How do you do it?” in regard to getting through your spouse’s deployments. Replying, “I don’t really have a choice now do I?” doesn’t seem to be a warm, wise, or understanding answer, which got me thinking, really how do we do it?
Just call me wino. That magic happy juice keeps me from worrying so that much I break down crying hysterically every time I’m at the commissary and see someone in uniform. Besides, it’s made out of fruit so it’s healthy. Really. You can look it up. (Okay, don’t actually look it up.)
These are the individuals that are right there along with you in the happy wine juice drinking department. They reassure each other this is normal adult behavior while inviting each other to as many Scentsy, 31 Bags, CaBi Clothing, Lia Sophia Jewelry, Pampered Chef, Amway, Mary Kay, Jamberry Nails, and Passion parties as humanly possible. Anything to make the days speed by.
You know, those cool people that, even when you do call crying hysterically because you forgot to take your daily dose of happy wine juice and went into the commissary and saw a happy little family, listen patiently and help pull you through. (Yes? Someone else relate to this?) Well, it’s those people who still answer your calls after that ordeal no matter the time difference (“Really, it’s 4 am there? I had no idea”). I would be lost without family.
Getting a little serious here on this one, but in all honesty it’s a big one - a little faith. It doesn’t matter if that is God, Yahweh, Allah, Ra the Sun God, Mother Nature, or Chuck Norris. Just, knowing there is something a greater purpose; an infinite wisdom in the midst of this chaos can get you through the hard nights.
1. Your Soldier
A big ole fat duh. None of us would do it if it weren’t for the man or woman we are waiting for. None of us would go through the stress and heart break if that person wasn’t worth every once of fear and hope, every second of missing, every moment of that and more.