A couple of months ago a women posted a blog that created a HUGE uproar. And for good reason. She was way out of line with her post. But that isn't at all what truly upset me. I was online the night that all blew up and I was reading the things WOMEN, other military spouses, were saying about this other woman and I was shocked. So someone uses her blog to go off on a tangent that is completely inappropriate for the internet and it is okay for other women to in turn call her names? Names I am sure they would not say to her face if given the chance. Names I am sure their husband/parents/children would be shocked to hear used to describe anyone, let alone another woman. Names that make the name-caller look vulgar and disrespectful.
Or how about the fact that women on my favorite Facebook military spouse support page are literally being harassed in e-mails from another spouse from another page. When did it become acceptable to send messages to people, once again hiding behind our computers, and threaten them? Wait, aren't we all adults? Or did I miss something where we reverted back to childish natures to essentially create unnecessary drama? Not to mention no matter what support page(s) you frequent, every single one has the same idea behind them.. SUPPORT. EACH. OTHER. So what gives? Why bash others?
The final straw was tonight as I sat on Twitter and realized that yet again there was a Twitter "battle" going on with someone giving someone/a group/company an attitude over something far more appropriate for a message or if nothing else better left unsaid. Would that person be that rude in person? I highly doubt it.. so why the lip on Twitter? Does it make people feel better?
I'm at a loss. When I married my husband I knew that it was not just me I was representing anymore. I now represent him, our name and even the military. For the first time I had to be conscious of what I was saying or how I was acting as it was not just me that would be looked down upon if I messed up, and believe me when I say that I'm a fiery redhead.. that is beyond hard for me sometimes. I know it is terribly cliche, but I'm a military spouse and with that comes a certain amount of dignity.. that does not include hiding behind a computer belittling other women. When did this become so acceptable?
Am I just overreacting or is this a valid concern here?
P.S. I love the military spouse community I am apart of on Twitter, Facebook and through this blog. There are so many women that make me feel proud to be a military spouse... so please don't ever doubt that I believe in the excellent women that make up this community. What I don't believe in is not treating others the way you would want to be treated.